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Try These 5 Tricks To Giving Your Kids Their Meds The Next Time They Don’t Cooperate

With the flu season in full effect, everyone and their mothers are getting sick (literally) and it is one of the worst things that us parents have to deal with.

3 out of my 4 children have gotten hit with the bug and it came with one thing I can not stand. Fevers.

Even with asthma and eczema being other nightmares, fevers are by far the scariest and last thing I want to deal with.

Along with those unwanted illnesses, comes the meds and getting your kids to take them which I’m sure can be a hassle to a lot of you as well. Read More

Beginner’s Guide to Buying As Seen on TV Products

As Seen on TV Products are a hit or miss type of thing with most of them falling under the “do not buy” category but that doesn’t mean all of them can be counted out.

With the many products I’ve tried and tested I have come to the conclusion that you have to try something for yourself as most of them are opinion based products anyways. Read More

10 Things First Time Dads Can Expect Before Baby Comes

I can remember everything from the day I found out we were expecting all the way up until our son was born.

Within that time, there is so much that goes on and it’s pretty sad to say, but dads take quite the abuse a lot of the time.

I’m not going to say that every single father goes through the same things, but I’m sure we can all share some of the same experiences.

For you soon to be dads, this post may frighten you a bit, but one piece of advice I can give you is…

Deal with it!

If you’re wondering what to expect before baby comes, here’s 10 things that you might want to be aware of.

1.) Your Life is Going to Change


Life will change for you and it’s not a bad thing either.

For me, I went from drinking all the time (I know, not cool) and hanging out of my friends, to having to go home just to cater to the Mrs.

For a lot of you new dads, this is actually a really good thing as it puts you in some type of direction so that you can figure out exactly what it is that you want in life.

In my case, it led me to the internet and having the title of “stay at home dad”, which is absolutely awesome.

Life changed with baby #1, but I’m forever grateful for what the good Lord above has done for me as I really don’t know what I’d be doing right now if I didn’t have any kids.

2.) You Have a Little Person That YOU Own Now


Welcome to the world of owning people.

Sure I can agree that taking care of a puppy is actually a lot harder than taking care of a human, but dogs don’t have to be catered to every single minute.

You have someone that you created who is not just going to be your responsibility as far as feeding and caring is concerned, but you need to help them get through life.

This is big.

Like, really big.

3.) Mom is Going to be Weird


Boy does this part suck and all I have to say is, hang in there.

Being a new dad is not all about dealing with your new baby, but you will have to deal with mom and her many changes.

This is where you see a side of your other half that you’ve never seen before and this is also where a lot of the bonding and really getting to know her happens.

She will probably forget some of the caring and grooming of herself, so be expecting to see mom in her rawest form.

4.) Mood Swings


This alone covers a wide range of swings and this is something you need to be careful with.

Your other half is going to become this person you never saw coming and you might learn a lot about her as she goes through the pregnancy.

She’ll be nice one minute and then all of a sudden she’ll become this angry, emotional, or depressed person.

Best way to deal with this?

Zip it.

Don’t try to fix things, don’t try to save the day, and don’t you dare try ignoring her.

Be there, but just be a “yes mam” for now.

When she says get that, you get it.

She she says leave her alone, that doesn’t mean go and play a video game.

This simply means to zip it so do exactly that.

5.) Kids Are Expensive


You’ve probably heard this before, but it probably never really sank in because well, you’ve never tried buying baby things in your life.

Remember those baby aisles that you used to pass or probably never noticed because you had no business going in there?

Let’s just say you’ll be finding yourself in that aisle a lot more and at odd times too.

Remember when you used to be in a convenience store (probably drunk), thinking about how late it was?

You might just encounter that late night encounter with a convenience store, but this time you might be picking up some Tylenol or Motrin.

If you’ve never bought one of those things yourself, let me just tell you that the prices for them continue to rise and it’s going to cost you over $10 a pop.

6.) You Need to be Flexible


Remember those aisles that I spoke of?

Be prepared to be going through that aisle at different times.

Along with the early morning runs to the store, you will have to leave work for mommy and baby checkups, along with many other things that will take a stab at your day.

7.) You Will Learn How to Save


Not much of a choice, but you will soon become some type of saving expert whether you like it or not.

From thinking that “it’s only a $1” you will find yourself saying, “hey, that’s a $1 we could’ve saved”.

Money is definitely going to be tight and if you’re not financially ready, this part will become apart of your daily life.

8.) Baby Can Come Anytime


I don’t care when your due date is, you need to be ready.

Around the due date is a great time to start being around more and not be out of the house that much.

Hang around, don’t get drunk, and be ready for mom to say “I think it’s time”.

9.) Getting in Shape Gets Harder


If you’ve got a beach body, you might just inherit a dad bod if you’re not careful.

Rembmer those days when going for a run was easy to do and fitting in some gym time was more on the if you want to side of things?

Well, let’s just say that you will wish that you could really decide on stuff like that because those days are long gone.

This is where programs like Insanity come into play and you will now be involved with a living room type workout rather than going to the gym to socialize with all your muscle head buddies.

Whatever the case may be, please, and I mean please, try to find a way to get or stay in shape as you will need to build that energy as a new dad.

10.) Long Nights


You saw this coming, but probably didn’t understand it that much and it’s really just normal.

This is where teamwork comes into play and you and your other half will need to share the duties or you’ll get burnt out.

Some of you dads might end up pulling more shifts because that’s just how things are these days, but like I said before, deal with it.

11.) It’s Time to Grow Up


Forget about how old you are or what you’re interested in because it’s time to give the wants and needs to the littler person you are about to bring into the world.

This doesn’t mean you forget about everything completely as you still need to care for yourself or you won’t be able to take care of baby.

And if you’re the type that likes to grow a beard or have a little stubble, you might want to get into the habit of getting a closer shave, especially if your baby comes across eczema like my first child had.

Sorry to be so straight forward, but parenting is no joke.

Now just because there is a lot of responsibility to take on, do know that there are going to be some great times ahead.

The last thing you need to expect before baby comes is that they definitely grow fast.

I’m sure you’ve heard someone tell that to someone else and never thought you’d be hearing it yourself.

Soon enough, you’ll be going to soccer games and promotion ceremonies like I do and all the hard work will payoff no matter what.

Congrats on your new addition and please do enjoy that new bundle of joy as yes, my friend, they do grow fast.

Cheers!

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21 Cool Hobbies For Dads That Are Actually Not Boring

So it’s no secret that I’m a full-time blogger and I make my living completely from the commissions I make through my blogs.

Being that I know more than the average dad when it comes to making money online and picking up cool hobbies, I have dedicated this post to dads that are not only looking for a cool hobby to pick up but some that can also get the kids involved.

Some I have adopted, will soon adopt, or was just an idea that I was contemplating but never got around to it.

Now I’m sure I spend more time with my kids than most moms, and this is why hobby #1 is going to be something you should consider doing if you would like to do like I do.

Without further ado, here are 10 hobbies that I think will be great for dads.

1.) Start a Blog


Beyond a great idea and something I recommend to anyone looking to not only spend time with their family, but also to make a killer income.

For some of you, the whole “blogging” thing will not sit well as I’m sure not all of you can grasp the concept of this whole topic alone.

“I don’t want to tell people about my life”

“That’s for girls”

Blah, blah blah!

There are so many excuses as to why people (especially men) won’t start a blog and it’s really sad because of the serious potential for the average joe.

Need a hobby?

Blogging is going to be something amazing for you and your family.

2.) Remote Controlled Anything


As a kid I had the RC that had the wire connected to it and boy did I think that was the coolest thing ever.

These days, there are ridiculous types of RC’s that I don’t think the world of remote controlled cars will ever be the same.

Then there are drones, which is just at another level.

Whatever the case may be, grabbing an RC for you and the kids is a great hobby to adopt as I’m sure you guys will never run out of fun.

Just like the blog hobby, I have incorporated the two and now I have a blog as well as a Youtube channel going just so that I can have fun with the kids and still make money in the process.

Talk about killing two birds with one stone, right?

3.) Woodworking


We’ve come from an apartment to a house and woodworking was one of the hobbies I considered doing.

While looking for some junk on craigslist, I couldn’t help but be amazed at the talent that these people had, with the chance to make some money.

I mean, they made bed frames and coffee tables out of pallets and all types of stuff that got me interested in doing it myself.

This hobby is in the back burner as I’ve gotten into the next hobby coming up.

4.) Yard Beautification


For some of us dads, we mow the lawn, pick up debris, and call it a day.

That used to be me until I started to mess around with some stuff on my yard and all of a sudden I find myself changing up things.

By moving one plant to another location, it gave me this vision to do more.

Bad for business as it takes me away from my blogs, but it definitely get my yard looking really awesome and it also gets the kids involved.

Not only are they learning how to be responsible, but they too are growing this passion for other things besides staring at that iPad all day.

5.) Gardening


Not into this yet, but my neighbor and I always stand out by the street and talk about how his plants are doing this and doing that.

Just like the yard beautification thing, he has build all types of contraptions, which got me saying wow as well as giving me interest on yet another hobby.

If I didn’t have my hands full, I’m sure this would be one to consider since it is not only something to do, but it can produce some fruits and vegetables that we can say we grew on our own.

As a matter of fact, this might just be an addition to the yard.

I’m going to cordon off some space for this and I’m going to start doing some gardening of my own.

6.) Camping


Definitely on our todo list, but we haven’t come around to it yet.

With summer approaching and my son getting a camping tent for his birthday, you can bet that we will be doing some sleeping outdoors and of course roasting some marsh mellows.

Rather than putting the boys in another sport since soccer season ended, I have decide to change things up this summer and I’m going to be running a little summer camp from home.

This is a great idea for you too, so consider the whole camping gig and maybe even a summer camp of your own, depending on your time.

7.) Exercising


I’m back into running now and this has actually become a hobby of mine.

If I’m not running, I’m doing some jumping jacks with my boys on an app that my 8 year old downloaded.

This hobby has nothing but benefits, which I’m sure your health will thank you for the most.

You don’t need to do anything crazy, but try to put a little exercise in so that you can develop that interest on something most people consider a chore.

8.) Play a Sport


Probably the most common thing to do, but as we get older, joining a sport becomes the last thing on our list as our time has shifted in favor of the brats.

My family and I started a softball league and not only are we still doing things with my siblings, but now my kids can participate.

Not to mention the occasional drinking after the games, which allows for more bonding.

Whatever sport it may be, find one that fits in your schedule and give it a try.

9.) Hunting


As a dad, there’s no better way to bond with your kid/s than by taking them to the good old outdoors and showing them a thing or two about hunting.

You will also become one with nature and if your kids are anything like mine, they’ll do anything to be outside.

Now you’re throwing in some type of searching for an animal?

Count me in dad!

10.) Sight Seeing


My dad actually introduced this little hobby to me and I have now started doing this with my kids.

As a matter of fact, we just came back from another outing and we walked our butts off while enjoying some places we’ve never been before.

You haven’t seen it all, so take some time to head into some uncharted land and explore something new to give you and your kids something to change things up a bit.

11.) Martial Arts


If you’ve been living under a rock and missed the hype that the UFC brought over the past decade, now might be a good time to get in on things.

Not as popular as it was before, but definitely still around and not going anywhere.

Take some classes and get the kids involved as I’m sure they can use some martial arts in their life.

We started the kids in Tykwondo (spelling?) and that was a good place for them to start rather than throwing them straight into the technical stuff.

12.) Craft Beer


I’m not trying to be a bad influence or anything, but tasting different beer while enjoying some good company is definitely something us dads can get into.

Yeah I may drink almost anything, but it’s always good to have a talk over the latest and greatest type of beer to hit the market.

Very popular in the west coast, this hobby has opened up new bars that cater to this type of crowd and I’m sure they have room for you too.

13.) Cooking


This is one of my new favorite hobbies and I never knew how fun this could actually be.

Not only is it fun, but it’s really amazing to see how putting so many different ingredients together make up a single dish.

If that’s not amazing, then I don’t know what is.

That alone has given me more interest in this whole cooking thing and now I am always trying to make something new.

Hey, we gotta eat, right?

Chef dad’s in the house, so move on over mom.

14.) Paintball or Airsoft


Very popular in my days as an infantryman and still popular today.

Maybe not paintball, but if you haven’t heard about airsoft, you might want to read this and learn about this not so new hobby is all about.

From the realistic looking weapons that shoot little BB’s, you will find yourself buying guns just because they look cool.

Who ever thought you could have an M249 (SAW) in your house?

Try airsoft and you can have one to showoff in no time.

15.) Magic


Who doesn’t like a good magic trick?

I don’t care how old or young you are, we all get amazed at someone who can make something disappear or find your card in the middle of a deck that only they would know.

Magic is definitely a hobby to consider, but do expect to take on some serious lessons before you start thinking that you’re the next Houdini.

16.) Drawing or Painting


My kids love to draw and paint and I did too when I was their age.

Being very limited in supplies when I was growing up, I now provide my kids with them so that they can do a lot of the stuff that I never got the chance to do.

As much as I loved to draw, I never got the chance to experiment with paint, so at lest they get to do it and yes, I get to do it too.

Pretty sad I know, but things weren’t the same back in the day, and what’s crazy is the fact that I’m not even old!

17.) Astronomy


Technology is crazy and with a simple telescope we can see things that are hundreds of miles away.

Always on my todo list, but this is something I’ve never gotten around to, but after doing this post, it looks like I have another activity to add to my soon to be summer camp.

This is not just a temporary thing either as there are always things going on out there that this telescope can be of use, so consider this to be an ongoing hobby.

18.) Tough Mudder


I don’t know what they call it on your side of the country, but things like the Tough Mudder have become really popular and can also become some type of hobby for you and your family.

Forget about 5Ks and marathons because now you can do different activities that can be fun and most especially challenging with the chance to get dirty like you’re 5 again.

Not the easiest hobby, but something to consider if you’re up for the challenge.

19.) Paddle Boarding


Not a very known hobby, but definitely something you can introduce to your friends and family.

With nothing but a board and a paddle, a lot of people have found fun in this not so cheap board and paddle, that allows you to stand and sail through any type of stand still water.

20.) Bowling


Definitely a fun hobby for the whole family and something that can still be competitive without having your overgrown body have the advantage over the kids.

Not the sweatiest and energy taking hobby, but it is definitely something you can do once a week even as it is not the most expensive thing to do.

21.) Lego Building


I really don’t know who this hobby is for, but I think my kids have gotten so many lego sets and they have not put a single one of them together.

Sure they’re below 10 years old, but I’m starting to think that this is really for dads and not them.

We put it together and they tear it apart losing all the pieces allowing it to become an addition to the toy box without any use whatsoever.

Build them for your kids, stack them on a shelf, and voila!

You have now started a lego collection.

Conclusion


There are just too many hobbies out there and I will be sure to add to this list of hobbies for dads as I can add at least 50 more to give you parents more ideas for things that you can do with your kids.

Until next time, what are your hobbies?

 

 

Finding The Perfect Gift For Dad Is A Lot More Complicated Than You Think

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Most of us have fathers that are beyond hard to please and in most cases “don’t want anything”.

This post is going to show you how to pick the perfect gift for dad, so that you can get it for him whether he likes it or not.

Being the “I’m the man of the house” type of dude, they have other things to worry about and getting something new is probably at the bottom of his list.

This is where you come in.

Whether you’re his mother, wife, daughter, son, or friend, it is your job to get him stuff that he not just needs but probably even wants.

If he’s anything like me, he will not once think about getting it for himself, so let’s make your job a lot easier by providing you this “guide”.

So How Do You Pick the Perfect Gift For Dad?


It’s actually really easy when you think about it, but it can be complicated if you don’t.

There are all the little signs on what you can get, but with this thing called life happening, we let these little signs pass us by.

Thanks to people like me, you don’t have to do much thinking as I will show you how to pick the perfect gift for dad without doing much thinking.

Let’s Start With Your Budget


How much do you have and how much are you willing to spend?

I know we always have it in our mind that these special events come around once a year, but if you think that way, you’ll most likely be broke the whole year.

First it’s their Birthday, then Father’s day, then Christmas, then other family member’s events and the list goes on.

It’s never ending, so you need to think about what is best for YOU.

Getting the perfect gift doesn’t mean it has to come with a nice price.

There are gifts under $50 that I’m sure you can find to be amazing.

Observe Him


Don’t be like some type of crazy person, but just take a look at what he might need.

Tools looking beat up?

Is he wearing the same shirt every other day?

Are his shoes talking when he walks?

There are all these not so little clues as to what he can use, so just look around the house and you will see what he can actually use and serve as a great gift.

If you see dad’s tape measure all rusty, don’t you think it would be a great time to get him one?

Do remember that if he has some craftsman tools or one of those high quality ones, there might actually be a way to get it replaced, to you might want to do your research first before spending on it.

Another thing to look at is all the cool As Seen on TV products that are out there, as they are actually really interesting and I’m sure he won’t have them.

I recently came across the Rotorazer as well as the Kreg Rip-Cut circular saw guide, which I’m sure he will find useful.

Ask Months in Advance


Throw the question out there.

“Dad, what do you want for your Birthday?”

“Dad, what do you want for Father’s Day?”

Not a week before, but waaaaay before the big day comes.

You will get a better chance of getting him to say something because he knows that day is a long time from now, compared to asking him a week prior as he will most likely say that he doesn’t want anything.

Asking ahead of time is like a regular conversation and he might just throw out the best gift ideas that you won’t get if you asked him later.

Ask Mom


If there’s one person that knows the man of the house best, it is always going to be his other half.

She knows exactly what he wants and most especially knows the type of person he is.

She has to be around him, deal with him, and all that type of stuff, so I’m sure she can point you in the right direction.

In this case, mama knows best.

What Are Dad’s Hobbies?


These days, some dads have it all.

Times have changed and there are a lot of dads that are actually spending a lot of money on themselves and they get what they want, when they want it.

So for that type of dad, you are going to have to do some digging and there’s no better place to start than by looking into what they have interest in.

Some dads are into gadgets, while others are more into yard work and DIY projects.

Look for the latest and greatest gadget or tool, and I’m sure you can add to his arsenal of things he already has.

If he collects something, add to it.

Now if it’s some type of hoarding collection, please don’t add to that.

Finding the Right Gift is Actually Really Easy


So if you thought that dad is the hardest person to shop for, I hope these tips have helped you find the perfect gift for dad, no matter what type of person he is.

Let’s not make the most simple man in our lives complicate something so simple, so we can worry about other things in life.

If you ever have any problem finding a gift for anyone really, you just need to take a step back and do a little thinking.

Thanks for reading my post on how to find the perfect gift for dad as I’m sure you have some tricks up your sleeve that you’re dying to share.

Do so in the comments section below as I’m sure we can all benefit from it.

Cheers!

 

– John

AskDads

 

 

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21 Things Dads Can Learn From The Movie Bad Moms

So I was on a flight headed somewhere WITHOUT my 4 kids and I decided to give the movie Bad Moms a chance and I must say I have learned a lot more than expected, even if I didn’t plan on learning anything.

Let me just say that this movie was flat out hilarious! So even if you decided to read this article without watching the movie, you might want to actually watch it as it is very much recommended.

As a parent we hardly ever have time for ourselves and a lot of the time we take things for granted, to include the mother of our children.

Sometimes I think I do the best job as a parent and my other half knows nothing, but in reality, it’s not about knowing that really matters.

If you think you are some super dad like I did, this article is for you.

Here are 21 things that the movie Bad Moms has taught me and I’m sure you dads can learn from as well, so enjoy.

1.) If Mom is Present, She is NOT a Bad Mom


People can talk all they want about a mom doing things that aren’t very traditional, but if she is present in their kid’s lives, she at least needs a pat on the back. At least.

Not the perfect role model, but at least appreciate them being in your kid’s lives as there are many parents that aren’t there at all.

2.) Moms Need Help


I’m sure most of you dads work and maybe even most of you moms, but we all know that that’s just apart of life.

Even if we don’t have the boobs or the mother hen like care that kids demand, dads need to help whether we like it or not, even after a hard day’s work.

Take the baby for a while and let mom breathe as I’m sure she could use some time to clear her brain from constantly worrying about what the kids are doing.

3.) Moms and Dads Need Me Time


We spend a lot of time with our families (almost all of it), but we all need to take the time to have our special time.

Let guys be guys and let girls be girls, almost like it was before you started making babies.

Mom goes on the first week of the month, and dad can go on the last week, but do things without each other every now and then and you will keep things interesting.

4.) Parents Need Mommy & Daddy time


I always thought that being that we made our kids we should be the ones to take care of them, but I think I’ve changed my thoughts on that.

There is nothing wrong with calling in the grandparents to watch your kids while you and the misses go out on a SHORT date.

Of course there are those wanna be parents that drop their kids to grandma and grandpa’s house all the time, but please don’t be like them.

Once in a while is fine, but just don’t make it a habit.

5.) Moms are Not Perfect


The name of this movie can be very misleading but it fits everything perfectly after watching the whole thing.

Moms can miss things and do things that aren’t very “motherly” but we are only human.

They are not perfect and the same thing goes for us dads, so once again, don’t think that you are Super Dad, even if you might just be.

6.) Kids Aren’t Like They Used to Be


Gone are the days of harsh discipline and in are the new rules that a lot of us parents can’t adapt to.

At the very least, try to understand that we live in a completely different world and our kids are not us, so we need to understand that.

We got spanked, they didn’t.

We didn’t get nice things, but who cares?

These days are not like the old days and if you can put that pride away, you will understand what this generation is really about.

You might not like it, but it is what it is.

7.) We Need to Learn to Live


Work sucks (not mine) but we need to dig deep and find a way to make things fun for our families, even if we work longer hours that most.

Forget about being tired from work for once and get out there and actually enjoy your time with your kids.

This alone will help with behavior and all that stuff, so just live and put work on the side for once.

8.) No One Knows it All


We are only human and I’m sure we all make and will continue to make mistakes.

If you’re “mr. know it all”, make it a point to not know it all and be one within the family and everyone else that doesn’t know much.

Whether you’re smarter than everyone else, that does not make you better so keep that in mind.

9.) Moms Need a Break


Dad, we get it, you work hard and you need a break.

Although my other half is a stay at home mom, she still needs a break from the kids, even if it’s just to not have baby in her arms for an hour.

Take a break from work, and give mom that much needed break.

10.) Everyone Has Their Own Story


Just because someone is being “mean” to you doesn’t mean we always need to lash out and attack them back.

Completely hard to do, but try to understand that they might be going through some things that we may never understand.

11.) Kids Will Teach Us A Lot More Than We Know


If you really take the time to watch your kids, you will see how amazing they really are.

It may be the way they swipe the iPad, but you can learn a lot about them if you took the time to watch them grow.

You will learn a lot about them and you will learn a lot about yourself if you just allow it to happen.

12.) We Need to Grow Down


Yes, we’re adults, we have responsibility, and we want to set the best examples for our kids.

Every now and then, take the time to make a fool out of yourself and be a kid for once.

This past Halloween I dressed up as Michelangelo and even if I looked like a weirdo, my kids absolutely loved it.

13.) Working From Home is Awesome


If you are working countless hours and you feel trapped, do know that there are legitimate ways to make money online.

I make my living completely for the internet and I only did it because I wanted more time with my kids.

Give the kids the quality time they deserve and at the very least, give the online world a chance.

14.) Let Kids Be Kids


Discipline is a must, but if your kid wants to write on the wall, let them.

Find the joy that they feel and just watch them do something that they know isn’t right, but they get to do it anyways.

15.) Don’t Allow Your Kids to Be “Entitled”


Kids are super spoiled these days but that doesn’t mean we need to give them anything and everything because other kids have them.

Put your foot down and remember that by giving them what they want all the time, it will only set them up for failure.

16.) Parenting is Not Easy


Even if you think you have everything under control, there will ALWAYS be something to remind you that this whole parenting thing is not easy.

It’s the hardest job in the world due to the completely unknown that comes with the job.

Unlike your 9-5 that you do like a robot, you don’t know what to expect.

17.) You Don’t Know it All


We always think we know more than mom just because they can’t wait to rush off and get on Instagram, but that’s not the case.

Just like how no one knows it all, we are very much included in that line, so don’t think otherwise.

18.) Hold on to What You Have or it Will Disappear


As humans we are prone to take things for granted and there are a lot of things we tend to overlook.

Don’t be like Mike and be the other half mom needs you to be or things can disappear without you even knowing.

19.) Know That YOUR Kids Are Awesome


Sure we all think our kids are the greatest, but do know that they really are.

We get to be around their unique personalities and that is really what makes them awesome.

I’m sure if we were around other kids, we would think the same thing, but that’s why we have our own.

20.) Kids Grow Way Too Fast


I know we all hear this all the time, but we need to sit there and really think about this one.

I mean, do the math and calculate just how long they will be kids and you will see that it is a really short time.

21.) Life is Way Too Short


This comes to the end of this post and we need to realize that our kids and their moms will not be here forever, to include ourselves.

Don’t let life pass you by and do a lot more listening than trying to be “the man of the house”.

Conclusion


We can disagree on a lot of things as a mother and father, but in the end, being a parent is not the easiest thing and I’m sure we can all agree, at least on that one thing.

Although we live in a completely different world that does have dad doing a lot of stuff only moms used to do, take the time to appreciate what they do even if it’s just being there.

No one is perfect and although we may think that we know it all as a dad, I hate to break it to you but we don’t.

I don’t care if you work 10 hours a day and you think that that’s all that matters, do remember that taking care of a kid or kids is a completely different story.

It is very much different and I do believe that the workload we parents inherit should be shared.

So dads, do mom a favor and do the laundry or wash the dishes every now and then.

Play with the kids and remind them of how important their moms are no matter how “bad” you think they are.

Most importantly, tell the mother of your children how much you love them and how grateful you are to have them in your life.

No one is perfect and moms definitely deserve a round of applause.

To all you moms out there that go above and beyond for your family, this is for you.

And to the mother of my children (Risha) I love you so much and I can’t wait to come home.

Thanks for all that you do and I am so, so, sorry for everything that I have done or not done as a father no matter what I thought.

You mean the world to us and I am forever grateful that you are the mother of my children.

I don’t think you will hear me complain about you putting makeup on anymore, so you have that to look forward to.

I would like to dedicate this post to all you “bad moms” that are simply just involved with your kid’s lives as that alone is an amazing thing these days.

You are truly awesome and thank you for all that you do as us dads will not exist if it wasn’t for you.

 

– John

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Becoming A Better Parent Starts With YOU, So Start There

So you want to be a better parent?

A lot of the time we try to blame our kids when it’s really not their fault.

With these helpful tips, I’m sure you’ll become a better parent almost immediately.

Kids are amazing. They bless our lives in so many ways that we don’t even realize it because, well, we are just too busy.

As much as they come into our lives to show us how to appreciate the little things, there comes this thing called parenting that a lot of us can’t really grasp.

This is taking “adulting” to a different level and something that I believe we all can use a hand with.

I am not the best parent in the world, but I do want to share some of the things that have helped and continue to help me become a better parent.

Some of this stuff you might already know, but I’m sure a little refresher won’t hurt.

Now if you don’t know it, I’m sure you will learn a thing or two on how to become a better parent.

Take a Step Back


I like to call this the step back method and is something I am very much proud of.

Everything in life requires some thought and with our ever so busy lives, we tend to go about things with some tunnel vision.

I don’t care if it’s your job or your kids, there comes a point where you need to step back and REALLY look at how things are going and not how you THINK they are going.

In this case, we are going to look at our kids and what they do, or don’t do, to make us react in a way that we might not want to react in the first place.

Prioritize


Sure we all have to work, but you need to realize that your children need your undivided attention.

Don’t be one of those parents that come home, feed the kids and then get on their phones like the kids don’t exist.

I mention undivided attention for that exact reason, so if you think that you’re giving your kids attention all while you’re on your phone, do know that that does not work.

We all think we can multitask but our brain can’t focus on two different things at the same time, so do know that you are not giving your children the attention they need.

I was once in the military, in college, and held a full-time job, but my kids became a priority and I knew I had to do something because I would’ve lost out on those “precious moments”.

Thanks to the internet, I found one of the best ways to make a living and I am forever grateful for what it allows me to do things on my own time, which results in more QUALITY time with my kids.

Don’t Be too Quick to React


“No”

“Don’t do that”

“That’s not nice”

“What’s wrong with you?”

The minute our kids do something our immediate reaction is to scold, lecture, and tell them exactly what they are doing wrong.

I’m actually a firm believer that you should correct on the spot (like you would a puppy), but do know that it does not work when they are already past the baby phase.

Not to say don’t discipline your kids, but do it in a way that you aren’t always trying to show them that they are doing something wrong.

My 2nd oldest son is not the most behaved and is really the one who showed me how to NOT jump the gun.

Patience is not easy to come by and with the stress from work and everyday life, it’s not the easiest thing to keep our composure.

Apply the step back method and try to understand why your kids reacts the way they do.

Maybe they need some 1 on 1 with dad?

Maybe they need some praising rather than scolding?

There are many reasons why they might act the way they do, so try to look at things the way they do or it will be a never ending battle with you on the losing end.

Know Who and What You are Dealing With


All kids are different.

Some may be the best behaved, while others are very curious and love to test the waters.

Treat all kids the same, but do make sure that you know that each child has different needs.

One may only need to be told once and others might need to be told over and over and over again.

If you have the child that won’t listen, you need to understand what you’re dealing with and know that sometimes saying “no, don’t do that” is not going to work.

Instead of getting mad and angry, I talk to him and try to get him talking about other things, rather than trying to lay the rules out so that he understands.

Be patient, but don’t be a pushover or they’ll run all over you.

Be Stern


I can’t stress enough on how different yelling is compared to being strong and portraying your message.

In case you don’t know this, yelling does not work.

It may startle them and let them know that you are angry, but it will get old real fast and they will soon block you out simply because they are used to it.

When talking to your child, be stern and let them know you mean business.

Tell them things in a way that they know you are actually talking to them rather than having them know that they got the best of you and made you break.

Let that happen and your household will consist of a lot of yelling and screaming with no real discipline or progress.

Show them who’s boss, but try to leave out the yelling as it shows how much control you don’t have.

Transition Slowly


None of us are born parenting pros and who cares.

We never knew how to read once we got out of the womb and we sure won’t know how to be a great parent all in one day.

Step back, understand what you’re doing wrong (or right), and adjust accordingly.

Most especially, bet involved with your kid and don’t think that by yelling at him while you’re on your phone is anything close to being a good parent.

Don’t Spoil Your Kids


I’m not even going to lie, my kids are spoiled rotten.

That doesn’t mean they get anything and everything they want though.

What you want to make sure you don’t do is let them think that they run the show or they will end up becoming that spoiled brat that whines about everything.

Rather than saying “what does my baby want” or “anything for my baby”, let them understand how important hard work is by letting them work for it.

After doing the yard, I let my boys help me pick up some trash and that’s when I throw in some type of reward.

The materialistic stuff is actually not what I’m talking about because that type of stuff is exactly that.

Spoiling a kid is giving them what they want when they want and that’s what you need to understand.

Just because they want something doesn’t mean they can have it, so don’t think that giving your kids everything is spoiling them.

Giving them what they want, when they want is.

Be Fair Across the Board


In my time there was ALWAYS a favorite and I’m sure it is very much still around.

Having more than one child is already a huge responsibility so don’t make things harder than they already are by having one child feel left out.

Although you may feel that you are fair, your actions will show otherwise and kids are a lot smarter than we think.

One of my boys does as he’s told and the other one does the opposite actually.

The crazy part is that the well behaved one gets less attention than my son that doesn’t always listen.

This does not mean that I show favoritism to my well behaved son or vise versa.

Not only should you not have a favorite, but you should never compare the two either.

Don’t praise one constantly while the other one is around and just try to keep things balanced.

We were all kids and I’m sure you wouldn’t like being compared to anyone else, especially if it’s something you’re not doing right.

I wasn’t “the favorite” but that doesn’t mean I wasn’t loved and it is also not the reason why I think you shouldn’t have one.

Show Some Love


There’s no better way to spoil a child than with some love.

Every kid deserves to be loved and showing them that you love them does not need to be through saying I love you.

Spending time with them, disciplining them when needed, and everything else mentioned in this post is how you show love to your kids.

Show them that you have time for them and that your job is of course necessary to survive, but take the time to enjoy them.

You Are a Better Parent


Just by you looking for a way to become a better parent already shows that you are at the very least involved with your kid’s lives, so great job mom or dad.

Do yourself and your kids a favor and give them the quality time they deserve and not just your boss.

Be the example of what they need to do when they get older and everything will be smooth sailing.

Showing you love them is the ultimate way to becoming a better parent and if you can understand that much, you are very much on your way to becoming one.

No one is perfect so do know that you are doing a better job than most.

Give your kids a kiss, tell them you love them, and apply what was mentioned in this post and you will see how awesome you really are.

Don’t let your kids work against you, work with them and they will work with you.

Good luck and thanks for reading!

 

– John

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Having a Newborn Around is Not Ideal For Beauty Sleep – These Tips Will Help

If you are new to this whole “daddy” game or just about to enter the fray, be warned; sleep is optional. Your new baby has absolutely no logic of time and, therefore, if junior isn’t happy, nobody’s happy.

Your new baby has needs and these needs are going to happen and literally all hours and any and all times of the day or night.

If you have never been through the beginning stages of an infant, you have no idea what you’re in for!

It can be trying, hard, and exhausting, but most of all…

it’s worth it.

But no matter how “worth it” it is, you still need sleep.

So, what should you do to alleviate the lack of sleep in the house? You may be surprised that it’s not nearly as hard as you think.

For moms, combating sleep is a task and that doesn’t mean dad isn’t involved.

Things have definitely changed and I’m sure there are dads out there that have to go through the day playing mom due to the society we live in.

My Suggestions.

First of all, you’re going to have to share feeding duties. You can not expect your wife to have all of the fun waking up at 2am after having only gone to bed 20 minutes before, can you?

If your wife is breastfeeding, it takes tons of energy out of her. Waking up with her to make sure she doesn’t accidentally fall asleep and drop the baby is highly suggested. Especially in the first 4 weeks of bringing baby home.

The more you share responsibility, the easier it will be for both of you to set a routine and get more things done (including sleep).

Next, make and keep a schedule! This holds true to keeping baby on schedule and it sure does wonders for my business.

It’s easy enough to just go with the flow, especially at first. But, at the end of the day, winging it only causes more chaos the longer you allow it.

If your body knows you are going to wake up at 2am, 3a.m and 6am, every day, sooner or later it will actually become accustomed to it. Once that happens, it will become easier to fall back to sleep.

Remember to breath! Relaxing just before pre-planned bedtime can do wonders to the mind and soul. Personally, I enjoy a beer but my other half prefers some wine.

Another helpful bit of advice is to eat just a bit more healthy. Get plenty of fresh foods, fruits and veggies, and lay off the convenient burger and fries!

I know, it is not the easiest thing to do, but at least try. Not to mention the price for fruits and vegetables these days. Sometimes we just can’t blame ya, but if there’s a will, there’s a way.

And dads, if you do decide to drink that beer at night, be sure to have a glass of water after. This will help keep your body hydrated, thus easier to fall asleep and wake-up when needed.

If you know you’re going to get carried away and beer turns into “beers”, then you might want to skip the whole beer thing.

The Nap: Taking a nap is a magical thing, so don’t be afraid to do it.

If you’re home with baby and he/she’s sleeping, ignore those dishes and take a 30 minute power nap.

Power naps are the best. Remember now, there is a difference between napping and actually sleeping, so don’t get them mixed up.

For me, if I “napped” for over an hour this will mean nothing but more headaches for me. There is a very fine line with my naps and if I go past 30 minutes, I will wake up feeling worse.

In the beginning phase of your child’s life, you can expect a whole bunch of napping and a lot less beauty rest. Once baby is on their own schedule, you can get back to putting them cucumbers on your eyes.

Dad, this advice is not just for you. It’s for mommy, too. Make sure she naps when baby naps. Those dishes will still be there later.

A big mistake my other half does is not taking advantage of when baby falls asleep. Rather than catching up on some sleep, you’ll find her on Instagram.

Do you think this is going to leave all the duties for me?

Nope.

So if you think looking at photos of what your BFF ate for lunch is worth it, then by all means, stay on Instagram all night.

Once you hear that crying alarm go off, don’t think that dad is going to pick up your slack or vise versa. Get rest when you can as it is now about baby.

Not you.

Create a routine and you will be in sync with baby. In a couple of months, baby will be on a regular sleep pattern and this time, both of you can get that well deserved rest.

For some of you, this whole parenting thing is a breeze, but that’s not the case for most. Follow these tips and you should be good to go.

And, if all else fails, feel free to call in the experts:

grandpa-grandma

That’s right…the grandparents.

Whether it be yours or hers, there is no way Nana and Paw-Paw wouldn’t miss a chance to spend a night with the little one if given the chance.

Grandparents, by sheer definition love to be “grand” in baby’s eyes so asking for a little help from them is not only going to give you and the misses a little break, but will likely be a treat for them as well.

These days, the grandparent role is not as strong as it used to be, so consider yourself lucky if you have this option.

Most grandparents can’t even enjoy retirement with how things are as they find themselves out looking for more work, just to make ends meet.

So put that into consideration before you call in the “G” team as each household is different.

So, there you have it! Just a few of my little suggestions to get a bit of rest while caring for a newborn. I know you have jobs to factor in, as well, but helping mom with baby as much as you can will help keep the home from turning upside down.

 

– John

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Backpack Diaper Bags Are Great For Dads

Backpack diaper bags are definitely in, especially for us dads.

I don’t know about you but I’m definitely a backpack kind of guy and yeah those messenger bags are cool and very much like a normal diaper bag but it’s just not for me.

There are many reasons why I prefer a backpack style diaper bag over any other type of bag and I would like to share them with you in this blog post.

Of course we are not all the same, but I’m sure this will help those of you who share the same interest I have.

Backpack Diaper Bags Just Look Cool


I’m not a fashionista but I at least want to look decent when heading out to the mall especially when mom decides to go and do her own thing.

When I travel I always take a backpack and did away with single strapped messenger type bags and the same thing happened with the way we carry baby’s things.

Our first kid had your traditional one strapped diaper bag but that changed when baby #3 entered the world.

Whether we want to look cool carrying the bag or we want baby to carry their own stuff a backpack is definitely something we get, even if it’s just for the “cool” factor.

Convenience & Comfort


I have always loved using backpacks as they are just that awesome.

With so many styles to choose from and them being so convenient I don’t see how they went all these years without creating a backpack diaper bag.

When we used to haul around one of those big single strapped diaper bags, it was just such a pain in the butt.

It would slide down my shoulder and did nothing but add to the stress that was very much not needed.

Now add two straps and we have a winner.

Even the kids love to carry baby’s things around as it is just so convenient.

It Doesn’t Look Like a Diaper Bag


Sure a lot of backpacks are designed to look like a diaper bag, but that’s not always the case.

And besides, not many people will look at a backpack and immediately know that there’s a bunch of diapers, baby wipes, and baby formula in there.

Not like you’re trying to go undercover or anything, but everyone and their mothers (literally) are using regular diaper bags.

I’ve seen the Diaper Dude Messenger bag and was seriously considering it until I found out that there were backpack diaper bags.

Good thing I waited.

Backpack Diaper Bags Can Be Used as Messenger Bags Too


These days you can have your cake and eat it too.

Thanks to diaper bag creators like Thebabysak.com there are diaper bags that can be a backpack as well as a messenger bag.

Want to look a little more sophisticated?

Turn it into a messenger bag.

Want to be more on the real side and carry it like a man?

Backpack it is.

You can really do whatever you want and there’s really no arguing there.

Where to Get a Backpack Diaper Bag?


There are some really amazing looking backpacks out there and there are some really expensive ones that are of course just to impress everyone else.

I was in the military and even though there’s a Combat Daddy Diaper bag, that’s still not something I would use and that’s just me.

I would go with a more simple, yet functional diaper bag, with a very affordable price tag.

In the end, I’m sure you can find one that suits your needs.

Go to Amazon.com and you will have a wide selection with a price that you can agree with.

Thanks for reading this post and please do share some of your favorite backpack diaper bags for us to see the different styles out there.

 

– John

AskDads

 

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How to Properly Care For Your New Baby Stroller

Sure we want to invest our hard earned money into our new bundle of joy, but I think taking great care of our investment is a bigger deal than most people think.

Picking the perfect baby stroller is already a task on its own now forgetting about maintenance can throw everything down the drain.

A lot of the stuff in this post might be common sense, so maybe this will be some sort of a reminder on what needs to be done to protect your investment.

There are many things that we need to know as new parents and there are some things that we can learn as we go.

This is a very simple chore, but if you follow these simple tips, I’m sure you will have a stroller that will last for many years to come.

So How do You Care for Your Baby’s Stroller?


With a little tender loving care.

Yeah that is definitely not going to be enough, but that tip alone will help you minimize the cleaning.

Treat Your Stroller Like it Was a Car

That might be a bit much, but it will give you an edge.

So we’ve spent over $800 on our stroller and I used to treat it like it was handed down, simply because I was really disgusted with the money my other half spent.

It took me a while to get over it and our stroller took quite the beating.

It was a bit on the heavy side so I would throw it in the car like it was worthless and I found every negative thing to say about it when it really wasn’t that bad.

After a few scratches later, I finally realized that throwing this thing around wasn’t going to help us.

It would actually hurt our investment and ultimately decrease the value of something that could still be resold at a very high rate.

Whether you plan on spending $800 or not, you still need to treat it like a really big investment.

Do Simple Maintenance


If you have a small spill or a little dirt, grab yourself a nice little baby wipe as we all know that you can use them for a lot of things.

While you’re at it, you can just wipe the cupholder and the little plastic pieces that can be cleaned in a couple of seconds.

Doing this on the spot cleaning will save you from doing heavier maintenance a lot less over time.

Full on Cleaning


Depending on where you’ve taken your stroller will really decide on when you need to take off the pieces and throw it in the washer.

If it’s an umbrella stroller, I’m sure you will be fine if you give it a quick flush and leave it out to dry.

For other not so convenient strollers, you might want to follow these tips.

Cloth

For me, I usually clean all baby stuff together as far as anything cloth related is concerned

If I’m going to strip down the stroller, I’ll take off the carseat cover and other baby stuff that could use a quick wash and do them all at once.

Give the a wash, dry them off, and slap them back on

The Main Body

If your stroller can take a flush, get some laundry detergent and start scrubbing.

There are probably crackers and some other snacks caught in between the cracks, so make sure you get rid of them too.

Tires

Get the tires cleaned by using a scrubber to get rid of all the dirt.

If you have those styrofoam type of wheels, you might want to be a little cautions when cleaning them as they might actually fall apart.

If you have inflatable rubber tires, you’ll have an easier time cleaning, but maybe you can add some air if need be.

Cleaning Solutions


Bleach is not for everything so those of you parents that are so used to using bleach to clean everything, you might want to think about things before you apply it to your stroller as this may cause more harm.

Bright colors usually require some good old detergent and you don’t need to get anything fancy to get the job done.

Now using some Clorox wipes to disinfect parts of your stroller will actually be a great idea, so do consider using those instead.

Over Cleaning


Some of you clean freaks will probably clean your stroller a lot more than most of us and that can actually be a problem.

Just like anything that gets exposed to the elements, it will eventually get worn down and the same thing goes for scrubbing something too much.

Yes you want it to be clean for that nice look as well as for maintenance but you just don’t want to overdo things.

Do What Your Stroller Can Handle


You can be the judge on what your stroller can manage.

If you have one of them styrofoam wheeled strollers you know it can’t handle the rough terrain that one of those fancy strollers can handle.

Take a chance and you risk losing a wheel which can mean the end of your stroller.

Then it’s time to fork out more money for a new one and that’s something we want to avoid.

Conclusion


Take great care of everything you invest in as there are other uses for them after baby moves on to being a dirty kid.

Not only can you resell it to make back some of the money you invested, but you can always give it to someone who actually needs it.

Taking good care of your stroller will result in a better functioning product and you will look better around other parents too.

Don’t be that parent that rolls up in the mall with a stroller that looks like it went to war.

If that’s you, I’m sorry to say, but you need to apply these tips ASAP.

Thanks for reading my tips on maintaining your new baby stroller and although I’m sure you already knew most of them, I do hope this helped a little.

What are your “secrets” to maintaining a stroller?

 

– John

AskDads

 

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