If you are new to this whole “daddy” game or just about to enter the fray, be warned; sleep is optional. Your new baby has absolutely no logic of time and, therefore, if junior isn’t happy, nobody’s happy.
Your new baby has needs and these needs are going to happen and literally all hours and any and all times of the day or night.
If you have never been through the beginning stages of an infant, you have no idea what you’re in for!
it’s worth it.
But no matter how “worth it” it is, you still need sleep.
So, what should you do to alleviate the lack of sleep in the house? You may be surprised that it’s not nearly as hard as you think.
For moms, combating sleep is a task and that doesn’t mean dad isn’t involved.
Things have definitely changed and I’m sure there are dads out there that have to go through the day playing mom due to the society we live in.
First of all, you’re going to have to share feeding duties. You can not expect your wife to have all of the fun waking up at 2am after having only gone to bed 20 minutes before, can you?
If your wife is breastfeeding, it takes tons of energy out of her. Waking up with her to make sure she doesn’t accidentally fall asleep and drop the baby is highly suggested. Especially in the first 4 weeks of bringing baby home.
The more you share responsibility, the easier it will be for both of you to set a routine and get more things done (including sleep).
Next, make and keep a schedule! This holds true to keeping baby on schedule and it sure does wonders for my business.
It’s easy enough to just go with the flow, especially at first. But, at the end of the day, winging it only causes more chaos the longer you allow it.
If your body knows you are going to wake up at 2am, 3a.m and 6am, every day, sooner or later it will actually become accustomed to it. Once that happens, it will become easier to fall back to sleep.
Remember to breath! Relaxing just before pre-planned bedtime can do wonders to the mind and soul. Personally, I enjoy a beer but my other half prefers some wine.
Another helpful bit of advice is to eat just a bit more healthy. Get plenty of fresh foods, fruits and veggies, and lay off the convenient burger and fries!
I know, it is not the easiest thing to do, but at least try. Not to mention the price for fruits and vegetables these days. Sometimes we just can’t blame ya, but if there’s a will, there’s a way.
And dads, if you do decide to drink that beer at night, be sure to have a glass of water after. This will help keep your body hydrated, thus easier to fall asleep and wake-up when needed.
If you know you’re going to get carried away and beer turns into “beers”, then you might want to skip the whole beer thing.
The Nap: Taking a nap is a magical thing, so don’t be afraid to do it.
If you’re home with baby and he/she’s sleeping, ignore those dishes and take a 30 minute power nap.
Power naps are the best. Remember now, there is a difference between napping and actually sleeping, so don’t get them mixed up.
For me, if I “napped” for over an hour this will mean nothing but more headaches for me. There is a very fine line with my naps and if I go past 30 minutes, I will wake up feeling worse.
In the beginning phase of your child’s life, you can expect a whole bunch of napping and a lot less beauty rest. Once baby is on their own schedule, you can get back to putting them cucumbers on your eyes.
Dad, this advice is not just for you. It’s for mommy, too. Make sure she naps when baby naps. Those dishes will still be there later.
A big mistake my other half does is not taking advantage of when baby falls asleep. Rather than catching up on some sleep, you’ll find her on Instagram.
Do you think this is going to leave all the duties for me?
So if you think looking at photos of what your BFF ate for lunch is worth it, then by all means, stay on Instagram all night.
Once you hear that crying alarm go off, don’t think that dad is going to pick up your slack or vise versa. Get rest when you can as it is now about baby.
Create a routine and you will be in sync with baby. In a couple of months, baby will be on a regular sleep pattern and this time, both of you can get that well deserved rest.
For some of you, this whole parenting thing is a breeze, but that’s not the case for most. Follow these tips and you should be good to go.
And, if all else fails, feel free to call in the experts:
That’s right…the grandparents.
Whether it be yours or hers, there is no way Nana and Paw-Paw wouldn’t miss a chance to spend a night with the little one if given the chance.
Grandparents, by sheer definition love to be “grand” in baby’s eyes so asking for a little help from them is not only going to give you and the misses a little break, but will likely be a treat for them as well.
These days, the grandparent role is not as strong as it used to be, so consider yourself lucky if you have this option.
Most grandparents can’t even enjoy retirement with how things are as they find themselves out looking for more work, just to make ends meet.
So put that into consideration before you call in the “G” team as each household is different.
So, there you have it! Just a few of my little suggestions to get a bit of rest while caring for a newborn. I know you have jobs to factor in, as well, but helping mom with baby as much as you can will help keep the home from turning upside down.
We all like nice things for our children and I’m sure we all plan on getting a baby stroller at one point in their lives.
Usually before they are even born.
With the many brands and models out there, picking the perfect baby stroller can be quite the task and something we probably overlook until after we have made our purchase.
With all the planning for baby’s arrival the more important things like what new parents need to know trumps the stroller, but we still need to consider or we’ll just be hurting ourselves later.
I want to share some of the “strategies” (if that’s what you want to call it) on how I was able to find the perfect baby stroller for the 4 children I now have.
Well you really don’t.
Sometimes we just go with it and make our decisions based on the cosmetic part of things when other things require some attention.
From the price all the way down to something as simple as a cup holder will help you decide on what stroller you really need.
Being that we purchased a very pricey stroller (that didn’t come with a cup holder), I couldn’t help but complain about something so simple.
Wouldn’t you think that something so expensive SHOULD come with a cup holder?
Or is it just me?
Okay, I’m done venting but you get my point.
We all know that probably the biggest part of our final decision will be based on looks alone.
Pick a bunch of strollers that fit into your liking and then you can break them down to find that perfect stroller.
I’m not much on the cosmetic side, but I did at the very least get a color I liked since I knew I’d be doing a lot of the pushing around the mall.
This is just a small piece of the pie, so let’s get into other things to help you make a better decision.
Most amazing looking and pricey strollers come with a pretty hefty price tag.
You would think that for such an expensive thing it would be as light as a feather, but that’s not so much the case in the world of baby strollers.
At least that’s how it is when it comes to bikes, but obviously it’s not the same here.
Depending on your strength should really decide on how heavy your new baby stroller should be or you’ll be like my other half who claims to love our stroller but hates taking it out of the car.
Get something that YOU will be comfortable with especially if you’re not going to the gym.
Opening and closing a stroller is not something you want to be complicated so make sure you get one that you can work with easily.
I love strollers that pop open with the press of a button and I’m not into those old school ones that have a latch that you need to manually set in place.
This is one of the few things I like about our Britax and with it being on the heavier side, the stroller opens a lot easier than any other stroller we’ve owned.
Get one to your liking as you’ll be the one who will have to deal with it and no one else.
For some of us, the mall is not our only stomping ground.
If you’re more on the outdoor style of living you need to consider getting a stroller that can handle your lifestyle.
We go to the beach, soccer games, and all the types of places that test the strength and durability of our baby carrier.
This is also where our personal choice of baby stroller has its advantage.
With wheels that need to be inflated and the extra weight, we are able to go places most strollers can’t and it’s pretty sweet actually.
We’ve tried struggling to get our old stroller through sand and in most cases we would have to leave it in the car because it does nothing but cause more problems.
Get a stroller that fits your lifestyle and if it is a lot based on the outdoors, do shop accordingly.
Sure we want to keep our things nice and clean but we do have to remember that we are dealing with kids.
Eating, messing, just living kids.
As parents it is our duty to maintain everything and cleaning our stroller is just apart of life.
Now one thing that I don’t like is come time to clean and everything is stuck to the stroller, with a pressure washer coming to mind.
When picking a stroller, see if the pieces are able to come off or if they are stuck together leaving you scratching your head.
Of course you won’t be cleaning it every other day, but I know there’s some of you who would rather not deal with this type of chore.
This is a huge factor to me when picking the right baby stroller although I think it should be standard with most makes and models.
Again, we got a very pricey stroller and it didn’t come with a cup holder like I figured it would and obviously I’m not over it
Of course you can buy it as an add on, but who wants to spend anymore money after dropping $800 on something so pricey?
We did and the darn thing ended up breaking.
These days there are cellphone holders and all that, so consider any additional add ons when purchasing your stroller.
If you’re like me, make sure the stroller comes with what you want especially if you’re not wanting to spend more on unnecessary stuff.
I can not stand bulky strollers.
Go with something you are willing to haul around and you might want to consider getting an umbrella stroller for more crowded venues.
There are many different sizes when it comes to strollers and I’m sure you’re considering the type of vehicle you have since it is what you will be using to transport it.
We have a Toyota Highlander (7 seater) and our Britax has to be split into two just to make it fit.
We also have a Sit “n” Stand double stroller by BabyTrend and that thing can’t even fit right with the back row down.
That’s our least favorite stroller, but it does work well around the house.
Definitely the biggest factor and will depend on how much money you have in the bank.
Yeah I’m sure a lot of you will use the “we only have a baby once” excuse, but please keep in mind that your little one will be 5 faster than you think.
If you’re not making that much money, definitely stay below $200 as there are many strollers that will give you what you want when picking the best baby stroller.
Although we can go on and on about the little things that you can consider, I think these are the key topics that will help you when making your next investment.
I hope this helps and please do share what you think is necessary when purchasing baby’s new ride.
Thanks for reading!
If you’re wondering what an umbrella stroller is I want to tell you exactly that along with the many reasons why I think you should own one.
I used to think a baby stroller was a stroller and then along came the umbrella stroller, which I have grown to love by the way.
I am a big fan of umbrella strollers but I was not keen on getting one since we already had a Britax Affinity stroller, which I found to be a bit on the pricey side.
After getting our first umbrella stroller as a gift from grandma, I have found this inexpensive addition to our family arsenal has become quite a favorite of mine.
I’m not one to pack the whole house for any reasons other than moving and this stroller has served a lot more than just something pretty to haul around.
Here are several reasons why I think every family with children under the age of 3 should have an umbrella stroller.
An umbrella stroller is a lightweight, compact baby stroller that folds up easily just like an umbrella would.
It’s meant for travel and other light tasked days that doesn’t require comfort like a regular baby stroller provides.
Super simple explanation for a really simple design that can and should help with a lot of the work we as parents take on when getting in and out of a vehicle.
If you’re going for a quick run to the grocery store or you simply don’t want to get in everyone’s way, this nice little stroller will do the trick.
This is going to be your best bet if you plan on taking a family vacation or simply going out of town.
At least that’s how they should be.
The evolution of baby strollers and umbrella strollers have grown a lot and parents are now looking to these things as a “go to” rather than only being used for simple tasks.
For the most part though, these things come below 15 LBS and will be the lightest of all baby strollers.
You can get an umbrella stroller for a very cheap price although some manufacturers have taken this simple idea to another level.
You can find one for less than $30 on Amazon.com which I’m sure will be money well spent.
I did find that these once cheap strollers can now cost as much as $300!
I’m not one to spend on stuff that will be used for a short amount of time, but my other half finds it very necessary to spend.
She thinks “they’ll only be a baby once in their lives” while I think ” we will only be using it for less than 3 years”.
Whatever your problem may be, there is an umbrella stroller for every budget and taste.
You can put this thing almost anywhere.
Within your house, this thing can be laid down or you can lean it up against something without it getting in the way.
Whether you have a sedan or an SUV, I’m sure you can find some space for this bad boy.
This is one of the biggest reasons anyone should get an umbrella stroller and I think it is very much worth the investment for this reason alone.
Like I mentioned about space, umbrella strollers are very much on the not so bulky side of things which makes for a lot more storage space.
We have an SUV and hauling around a regular stroller is a big task as it can’t even fit perfectly in a car designed for bigger families.
Not going anywhere fancy?
Take the umbrella instead.
I’m a lot on the conservative side, but for under $20 I think it is very much worth the investment.
Rather than getting stressed out trying to take out old bulky from the car, let a good old umbrella stroller simplify life at least for that moment.
I recommend getting one for the many reasons mentioned above and I’m sure a lot of you will agree.
Do you have any recommendations when it comes to umbrella strollers?
Please share them in the comments section below.
Thanks for reading!
When you take a look at modern culture, you’ll notice that not all dads are into football.
Some of the most highest rated films and TV shows right now are based off of comic book heroes and villains. Conventions of all sorts bring in thousands of attendees and make millions of dollars in a single weekend.
Let’s face it; it’s hip to be square.
Unfortunately, it can still sometimes be hard to find fellow geeks in the real world. It’s still customary to meet fellow Dads at the local ball game or your kid’s martial arts class.
Well, you don’t have to use the force to find friends because we got you covered.
Let’s start out by admitting one thing; there is, in fact, a difference between nerds and geeks. It is entirely possible to be both, but, in case you missed the memo, let’s go over the facts:
“A geek is someone who is into pop-culture “fandom” where as a nerd is somewhat more academic.” – Misty Kirksey
So, you see, you can be a scientist and, even knowing better, can still appreciate the fictional effects of gamma rays on the human body.
If you can look past basic physics, you can get over any and all apprehension of wearing some of your favorite superhero shirts in public (especially at a playground).
Speaking of parks, wearing your favorite superhero shirt, or having their symbol on your diaper bag, etc. can be a great way to meet other fan Dads. It only take a glance to see what you’re into, and any future friends will appreciate that.
Then there are the local comic shops and bookstores themselves.
Sure, you’ll find all walks of life roaming the aisles, but sooner or later, you are bound to make a connection.
And let’s face it, a comic shop is a WAY better environment to get to know a guy rather than the screaming sports fan at the local bar.
At least here you can speak in a normal voice about the things you love rather than have to yell over loud drunken hoots and blaring television screens.
My husband is a super adorable geek, so I know all this from experience!
Don’t be afraid to those crazy, geeky conventions! There, you’ll be able to connect with some like minded geeks and plan to meet up.
Also, there are plenty of groups that have at least monthly if not weekly meetings and gatherings. The 501 and/or Rebel Legions are just 2 such groups that may vary in their particular dress styles, but still have the same heart.
Don’t be afraid to look for local groups and get in on the act.
A good way to find groups is meetup.com.
No, it’s not just for dating (although, single dads, that COULD be an option, but we’ll save that for another time). This site can be used to find all kinds of groups of all different interest.
You don’t have to sit at home watching TV and wishing you could be part of the fun anymore; you can BE the fun!
Just a few minutes of search time and you could be well on your way to connecting with a multitude of other dads and even sometimes married couples that share your interest (just don’t plan a double date on hoth, I hear it’s cold this time of year and their local wildlife doesn’t have the most pleasant of scents).
Overall, don’t be afraid to be you! Let your geek flag fly, Dad! Strike up a conversation with that co-worker drinking from the T.A.R.D.I.S. mug.
Ask that neighbor about that Spider-Man sticker on his car.
Don’t be afraid to connect. If your wife is geeky too, all the better!
Go together and exchange info with couples.
Be yourself and don’t be afraid to let it all out.
Get out there and have some fun…
Just stop looking for geek friends in Alderaan places.
Dads, we live in a very interesting time, these days. Woman are not the only one’s in the kitchen.
Single fathers have to cook.
Stay at home fathers have to cook.
If both parents work, sometimes you can make an arrangement to rotate who’s night it is to cook.
No matter the reason, Dads need to know how to properly nourish their children.
Don’t worry, I am here to help.
There they are… Those big eyes and rumbling tummies… And it’s your turn to cook tonight….
Dad… What do you do?!
Order Pizza? Chinese? Eating a burger is just like eating a salad, right?
Your wife will kill you if you feed those children takeout for the third time this week.
Just take my word for it.
Once, I had a friend who tried to pull a Mrs. Doubtfire when his wife was running late from the office. He ordered takeout from a local restaurant and put it on normal plates, as if he had cooked it. He even went as far as “dirtying” pots and pans to looks as though he had actually cooked. Not Smart.
Needless to say, my friend’s wife had some incredible laughs while watching her husband lie shamelessly for days about that meal. She even asked him for the recipe!
Dads, don’t fake the meal. Cooking is all about mixtures and measurements.
If you can read, you can cook.
If you can measure, you can cook.
In my personal opinion, I find it so sexy when a man grills a steak or makes dinner because he got home first. I’m sure, I am not the only woman like this. So, for the sake of your sex appeal, I have compiled 3 simple, delicious, healthy and quick meals that every man should know.
“These meaty, cheesy nachos are packed with flavorful Italian ingredients, like garlic, peppers, sausage, and herbs.”
“Use naan flatbreads and prepared pesto sauce for a fast and easy pizza. Try the chorizo and broccoli rabe as spicy and hearty toppings.”
“The creamy mildness of ripe avocado wedges is the perfect complement to the spices in these burgers.”
Well, that’s because it is. How do you think people learn how to do something new? They just do it and through trial & error, they perfect it.
There was a time when I worked so late into the nights, getting up every morning and making breakfast was nearly impossible.
So, my husband helped me out and fed everyone in the mornings. After 3 weeks of pop tarts, toast and cereal, I had enough.
One night, I sat Nathan (my husband) down and said “I’m on a Pop Tart strike.”
Needless to say, he was not pleased with my request for a more diverse menu.
Now, don’t mistake any of this for “oh, every meal has to be some gourmet event.”
No… Hell No.
I just wanted something healthier. Something that would provide energy for my long day.
Oatmeal with fresh fruit.
Eggs and Bacon, etc.
Turns out, my husband just didn’t know how to work anything in the kitchen. He didn’t even know to spray the pan with a non-stick spray before putting food on it. I had no idea that this task plagued him with so much stress every morning.
So, I showed him the basics.
And then, I ate whatever he cook and put an honest effort behind, burnt or not.
Today, my husband makes the best sausage ever. It is incredible with pancakes and pancake designs (our daughter loves when Daddy makes pancakes) and he looks forward to cooking breakfast.
I guess the point is to look past the fear and just try.
With a little effort and some step by step recipes, you’ll be an incredible chef in no time!
Is it defined by color or use?
Why is a play broom and vacuum a “girl toy” and not a boys? Don’t boys need to learn to clean up after themselves?
Why is Cinderella a “girl” movie versus a “boy” movie?
Why are GI Joes and Cars “boy” toys and not “girls”?
These labels are ignorant and stuck back in the wrong decade. It’s 2016. Evolve with the times. Men need to know how to clean and woman need to know how to change a tire.
…and I do feel that it is a woman’s job to maintain a clean home and cook all the meals. I still feel that I am in charge of the lawn and vehicle maintenance while I am over the inside of the home and balancing our books.
But, you best bet my other half knows how to maintain her vehicle. You best bet I help with the dishes and laundry.
Don’t limit your son because you fear he may be teased for wearing pink tennis shoes to school (heels is a whole different story…). Don’t limit your son because he is 2 and wants to play dolls with his sister.
Keep an open mind and an open heart. He is your son and you are his father. You are his example and who he wants to be when he grows up.
Becoming a dad has been one of the greatest things that’s ever happened to me. It just so happens that I have been blessed with 3 boys and it has definitely changed my life for the better.
The thing about life is that we are all different and some of us take things differently than others. Here is what having a child has done for me as a person.
Let me just tell you that I was once a big time party animal and all that has changed. For the better of course.
I am not going to complain and I am not going to tell you how much I miss getting drunk with my friends, because they still come over to my place and I am still allowed to drink every now and then.
If there’s one thing that having a child did, it would be setting me on the right path. No more trying to figure out what I wanted to do with my life, but doing something and making it happen.
Did I mention that I am a full-time work from home dad? Well that’s exactly what I do, and I couldn’t ask for a better “job”.
Let’s just say that I had to change almost immediately. I had to stop a lot of things that weren’t so “father like” and it was almost like I didn’t have a choice.
I used to smoke and literally quit cold turkey on the same day my first child was born. I guess you can say that I was more of a social smoker and I didn’t have an addiction to nicotine, so that is a good thing I’m guessing?
For some people, changing is something they can’t accept, but that is kind of normal I’m guessing. Although parenting may not come naturally to most parents, hopefully the content on this site can help you grow not only as a parent, but also as a person.
I thought getting deployed twice was life changing, but becoming a dad is at a whole different level and experience.
I can say that I absolutely love being a father. I don’t think I’ll ever get tired of hearing my kids call me dad although I know they will soon outgrow the whole “daddy” thing.
Watching my kids grow has done a lot for my life not only physically, but also mentally. I have more focus on my goals now and I have accomplished a lot more, now that I am a father.
From learning how to change a diaper, to watching their personalities change as the days go by. I am just sitting out on my lawn, typing this article, watching my boys go back and forth with their little conversation and I can say that is what pushes me to do what I do.
Having a child has helped me with my financial state a whole lot too. I went from an active duty soldier, working a civil service job, and going to college, to being a full-time stay at home dad.
I mean come on, who gets paid to talk about how wonderful it is to be a father? I do! If you want to learn more on how all this was possible, you can take a look at my money maker, which is aworkathomejobs.com.
If it wasn’t for the fine folks at Wealthy Affiliate, none of this would be possible. And if it wasn’t for my kids, I would’ve never found the opportunity to make money online, from home, without doing any type of MLM recruiting nonsense.
This is the first post for askdads.com and it definitely won’t be the last. I hope to share and learn different experience with all you fathers (and mothers) so don’t be afraid to share.
I look forward to hearing your stories as well as giving the best advice any dad can get. Cheers!